Dear Eric: I lost my oldest, beautiful, intelligent daughter five years ago at 38 years young. She left behind two young sons and a spouse. Her death ultimately stemmed from alcoholism; however, she was admitted to the hospital with pneumonia and eventually her body shut down organ by organ.

I think her son and daughter-in-law are more interested in having fun than taking responsibility for the care of their children.

She loves to spend time with her grandchildren but overnight and weekend visits with two very young kids are very physically demanding and exhausting for her. Because of a prior serious injury to her shoulder,

Although my friend is pretty active and we enjoy outings ourselves, we are often not able to do the things we want to do because she gets scheduled to provide childcare. She loves to spend time with her grandchildren but overnight and weekend visits with two very young kids are very physically demanding and exhausting for her.